who am I now?
I was in a head on car crash on 2/1/2013. I was on my way to work when a man who was texting swerved into my lane and hit me head on. It happened so fast that I had no time to react. I saw his truck out of the corner of my eye swerve in my direction, the next thing I can remember is the taste of blood, and the smell of the airbag and crushed metal. I was slumped over and couldn’t move my legs. The pain was tremendous that I had to keep reminding myself to breath. EMS came pretty quick; it hurt like hell when they pulled me out of the car! I’ve never been so scared in all of my life. I broke my back and crushed both legs from the knees down. My back is fused now from L1-L3 and I have a lot of plates and screws holding my legs together. I spent a month in the hospital and then came home to 24/7 home care for months. I was totally non weight bearing for over 3 months and in a wheelchair. I now have a body of a seventy year old woman and I’m only 38. I lost a lot of muscle!!
Thankfully I have been walking for a few months now. Aside from the bad scars on my legs (which I hide), obvious weight / muscle loss and walking a little funny, I look like nothing has happened. I almost want to have my wheelchair back so that everyone will stop expecting me to do everything I used to be able to do. I’m still in a lot of pain in my back and in my knees and I’m on a lot of pain meds. I feel like no one understands what I’m going through. I don’t know who I’m supposed to be now. I can’t work and I have no desire to start driving; so I’ve isolated. I feel scared all the time, I cry every day….sometimes all day and I’m having panic attacks. I wasn’t like this before. I used to be an outgoing, strong and very independent woman. To make matters worse, I’m a single Mom of three. I can’t imagine how this has affected them watching me give up like I have. I miss who I used to be and I know my kids do too.